The Enemies of Love, Part Twelve – Television

Television can be one of the enemies of love. I should say that watching too much television can negatively affect your love life.

If you spend hours upon hours staring at your television, that means that you are likely spending much less time with your lady. She will likely want to spend time talking to you, not grunting at the TV screen or only speaking at commercial breaks.

With the wide variety of programming available to viewers today, you can catch movies, news, sports or porn pretty much 24/7 Shibuya Kaho . So which one is your addiction?

I’m less concerned about your addiction to news or old movies than I am about porn. Pornography can have a very negative affect on your relationship. Few people can watch porn and use it as a sex life enhancer. Usually, the viewer gets images drilled into his head (no pun intended) of sex acts that aren’t going to happen in his life. So, if he develops a strong desire to mimic those sex acts with his lady, and she doesn’t agree, you have conflict and dissatisfaction. If the addictive desire is strong enough, he’ll find satisfaction SOME way.

Some women like looking at porn, and think it’s a turn-on. But most are thinking that you are fantasizing about the women in the porn and most women are comparing their bodies to the porn stars…and not in a good way.

I understand visual images and the desire to try new things…that’s what we talk about here. But any addictive behavior changes you, and your lady might not put up with your changes.

So, if you are spending too much time in front of the tube, either find a woman who likes that kind of behavior, or change yourself…or stay single. Being in a relationship with a woman is supposed to be about spending time with her. And, your life is supposed to be about living in balance.

The questions could go on and on. The fact is that porn is here to stay. The question is, “Are we ready to deal with the consequences?” Pornography consumption increases every year without society addressing any of the questions above.

It appears that there are two camps regarding pornography and its implications for society. The first camp believes that there is nothing wrong with porn. They argue that it enhances relationship sexuality, is enjoyable entertainment, and is basically harmless.

The other camp believes that pornography is harming society by destroying marriages and the youth of the next generation. Attorney’s and marriage and family therapists will tell you that they have seen an increase in clients seeking help due to pornography. The president of American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, J. Lindsey Short, Jr. recently said, “If there’s dissatisfaction in the existing relationship, the Internet is an easy way for people to scratch the itch.” Spouses who get hooked on Internet porn are a growing complaint among spouses filing for divorce, according to a survey of 350 divorce attorneys.

Regardless of where you stand on this issue wouldn’t it be wise to consider the implications of pornography on society? Here’s just a few questions that should be addressed. Is it acceptable for pornography consumption to occur in the work place? What should happen to the person who views pornography in the workplace? If 33% of people are viewing pornography while at work a business cannot afford to fire all of these employees. So what is the solution?

Is it okay for a person in a committed relationship to view pornography behind their partner’s back? Is it okay for an 11 year old to be exposed to pornography? That is the average age children are exposed to porn.

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